There is a voice inside of you
That whispers all day long,
“I feel this is right for me,
I know that this is wrong.”
No teacher, preacher, parent, friend
Or wise man can decide
What’s right for you–just listen to
The voice that speaks inside.”
― Shel Silverstein
My brother’s son bent to touch my feet, I told him, don’t do it unless you really feel doing it, for I sensed a certain kind of reluctance in him to do so. This triggered a huge war in our house. of course my sister-in-law being well brought she did not tell me anything upfront, but she was very articulate in expressing her displeasure to my mother. For her it was an issue where I refused to wish her kids well.
For me, it was an issue where the child was giving his power away to others, it could be his mother or it could even be norms. I would bless the boy take a stand on what he wants and stand by it. we have all faced this kind of repression one way or ther, in schools and in various situation, we reach a point that we do not know how to hold our power because giving it away is ingrained. We have let the noises of other’s opinions drown our own inner voice.
There are times when we feel we have to give our energy to other people just as part of social contract, and we feel we have to do it in order to survive. But it is possible to exchange energy in a way that preserves our inner integrity and stability, this begins with listening to our inner voice. The refusal to listen to our inner voice is so ingrained that people sometimes have to be forced to things they would rather not articulate just s that they could hear their own words. It is interesting the way people know things and not know them at the same time. Denial is like a thick stone wall.
When we think about it, buying into trends, letting other people make decisions for us, not exericising our franchise, not voicing our opinion on things, are all occasions when we give up power. Somewhere we are told that if we take a stand, we are being stubborn, aggressive, the difference is very fine, careful listening to our inner voice will let us take a stand, without being aggressive. After all aggression is also a form of fear.
What we do not realize is that unexpressed emotions don’t die they are buried alive and will come forth later in uglier ways.
Standing up for who we are , respecting our self and ignite the divine spark in us, accessing our powers, choosing our rights and working with others brings blessing into our lives, for these relations are built with our power and we follow it.