to play the cupid's game.

Plinky wants to know if it better to have loved and lost than loved at all, but what on the cupid is love?

Pompeii: Marble fountain, dolphin diving downward with Cupid [from Pompeii].

Plinky wants to know if it better to have loved and lost or not loved at all. But how does one decide without knowing what loving is all about. If mills and boons gave us one side of the picture the KJo movies talk of another, but the most wonderful one of it all is what I found in a Buddhist text.

Love and physical attraction seem to work on contradicting each other.

If physical attraction is magnetism between opposites love is magnetism between similar. We love in love with forgotten or disowned pieces of ourselves.

Love once gained is never lost, the soul in search of itself finds a soulmate– then you are eternally married to that person. This maybe a little narcissistic.

When we find ourselves in another it becomes an art of self acceptance. It cannot be possessed; reclaimed or comprehended it is timeless.

Physical attraction or sexual attraction can exist independent of love or even within love.

Physical attraction at times acts like bait inviting us to heal ourselves. It makes it so powerful because the soul seeks wholeness.

Each one of us has the desire to touch and to be touched. The prohibition on sexual magnetism can distort its profound purpose.

These suppressed instinct sequestered can rage within and express inappropriately.

It can even translate to hate and violence

So when we say love and lost, it does not happen, but probably what question means is will you trust someone enough to be vulnerable? Or is it that physical proximity that they are talking about.