What goes for the goose goes for the gander

plinkyIndispire has thrown a prompt about virginity and a girl’s character… my response was thus http://plinkyprompt.wordpress.com/2014/06/14/whoses-character-mr-moral-keeper/

There have responses to it, but here is a very curious one by SPEAR

SPEAR
Jun 14, 2014 @ 16:02:55 [Edit]

Very sad that you feel this way ! Blind acceptance of western values has led to decline in character , social values of today and a sense of propriety for a happily married life . When humans descend to the level of animals , give in to carnal desires without commitment , the concept of real love , belonging and togetherness goes for a toss . Forget Polygamy & polyandry , the case you are making , for ‘ open marriages’, group sex , live-in relationships present a scene where the word ‘marriage’ becomes redundant ( no botheration of calling someone husband /son/daughter , or registering the union ) . Men of course , will happily sow wild oats all around , take no responsibility for ‘home’(rendered meaningless)or hearth , do not care or provide – and will live free of all responsibilities , commitments , contacts and contracts . Women would have lost , by losing their virginity before a commitment – firstly lost respect , genuine love , and genuine affection of a male partner , secondly the security , safety and emotional warmth , love and togetherness of a family and crucial help in sharing child upbringing . Go on – in the name of Women’s Lib , hug American values and shun Indian traditions . It is indeed sad that instead of protecting and supporting violated women, you are advocating a life of gay abandon for the new generation women of our nation

Everyone is entitled to his or her opinion and one does not have to abide by mine. All the same, I do find it amusing that the gentleman has neither understood the prompter’s question nor my reply. i am talking about gender equality in choices and decisions, opportunities and responsibilities. 

Blind acceptance of western values has led to decline in character, social values of today and a sense of propriety for a happily married life. I am at a loss to understand how the prompt applies to this… first of all one need to understand what is a happy married and who defines that the marriage is happy? Where does the decline in character come from?

Men of course , will happily sow wild oats all around , take no responsibility for ‘home’(rendered meaningless)or hearth , do not care or provide – and will live free of all responsibilities , commitments , contacts and contracts–

Of course virginity is also the certificate of a man’s character. No woman will want to commit to a man who will go “sowing wild oats” what a sic thing to say!! Marriage is not about contracts. As for indigenous people children belong to community. It is the responsibility of the community to bring up a child.

agnisakshiWomen would have lost .. (hello lost what?)… by losing their virginity before a commitment – firstly lost respect , genuine love , and genuine affection of a male partner , secondly the security , safety and emotional warmth , love and togetherness of a family and crucial help in sharing child upbringing .– If a man cannot respect a woman for her strength and accept her weakness, but his respect is an issue of a tissue, then he is not worth it, marriage does not automatically ensure love, affection of either the woman to the man or the man to the woman. When two people have achieved a certain amount of trust and respect in each other than they are in a place where they can share joy, sorrow and responsibility. This is the saptapadi that we swear in front of Agni, Marriage  is about equality. The choice the man has the woman has it too.

If I add to the family income by earning out of the house, then my husband should help in the housework. If a woman has the choice to be a stay at home mother, a man should be allowed the choice of being a stay at home father.

It is indeed sad that instead of protecting and supporting violated women , you are advocating a life of gay abandon for the new generation women of our nation—what gives you the authority pass a judgement about violated women and where does advocating a gay abandoned life come?  I have only one belief what GOES FOR THE GOOSE GOES FOR THE GANDER. 

Ps:— vyasa has terms for children of unmarried girls they are Kaneena,  Golaka are children of widows, while Kundara children born of women whose husbands are impotent, that is married women impregnated by other men with the consent of the husband.

 

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parwatisingari

full time mother and role play at being, dentist,dramatist, dancer, dreamer

2 thoughts on “What goes for the goose goes for the gander”

  1. Virginity is purity of the mind. Perversity too springs from the mind before it is enacted by the body. A simple hymen cannot make or break purity.
    What I stress upon is that a pure mind is far more important than a pure body.

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