The life of every man is a diary in which he means to write one story and writes another; and his humblest hour is when he compares the volume as it is with what he vowed to make it.—James M.Barrie
Listening to my patients and tobacco addicts I realized we all have a story line for our lives, that story that we tell ourselves become very important in our life script. Our body tells this story to others like a cover would reveal the story within.
If like me you are on a journey of self discovery and self healing maybe you can recognize one of these themes that you have been weaving your story around…
- I drink too much, I exercise too little, I am overweight, unhealthy and people in my family have died young.
- I don’t feel I am doing a good job anywhere—home, work, family, self I’m overwhelmed.
- I accomplished all these things I supervise a huge workforce but I lost my connectivity to God, I lost the most important thing in my life, I lost my spirituality.
- I spend too little time playing with my kids. They look forward to the babysitter coming because she plays with them more than I do.
- I feel unappreciated and taken for granted my spouse does not understand the magnitude of my workload. work consumes all my energy.
- The career I have chosen and love threatens the most sacred part of my life, my relationship with my children.
- I have lost passion for I’ve been doing both in professional and personal life.
Interestingly most stories fall within the framework of these seven base themes. One of them is of course mine.
I cannot change this story so far what I can do, accept the story thank it for being mine and gently let go. After which I can rewrite. This of course comes with a price tag.
Some changes take place, some beliefs are shaken but yes we can consciously rewrite our story.