Aunt Vaidehi, is a great knowledge bank. She can also be amusing. Yet she is not really a very popular relative, the reason could be that she is quite judgemental and puts things rather cuttingly. It is kind of a compulsion for her to show the other in bad light. To think at one time I thought she was “it” the smart one and kept hoping to be like her, but eventually I noticed that people tend to avoid her very politely, or feel quite relieved when she left the vicinity.
When I realized this I also became aware that in our everyday life, we are surrounded by a variety of people, some that we deal with on a daily basis, are a joy to be with. We feel so nurtured and encouraged by their presence. Then there are people like Aunt Vaidehi that we rather stay away from, as they are a strain to be with. Essentially our well being is influenced by those around us, the quality of our social interaction do have an effect on our energy.
The Sanskrit saying “sahavasa dosha” is not really wrong. Surrounding ourselves with people who help us cultivate healthy and positive relationship is a healthier option emotionally and karmic ally. We definitely do have a lot of control over who we are with, but we do have the power to step back from the toxicity that lies within us. when a relationship begins of create toxicity in our space we need to assess, how constructive the person is in our space, or if we can convert the person’s negativity into positivity.
What I did find is the moment I am more honest with myself about my own feelings, the more candid I can be with others about how they make me feel. This does involve drastic changes to our social life, it also brings about personal transformation and is quite empowering. Essentially because it allows live with our choices based on our truths.
When we surround ourselves with positive people we clear away the negativity that exists around us and create more room to welcome nurturing energy. Doing this not only enriches our lives but also envelopes us in a supportive and healing space that fosters greater growth understanding and love of ourselves as well as those we care about..
“Surround yourself with people who make you happy. People who make you laugh, who help you when you’re in need. People who genuinely care. They are the ones worth keeping in your life. Everyone else is just passing through.”—Karl Marx.