Life transitions,

Life transitions,

Death and rebirth of self

My ankle was shattered in an accident, during its recovery it could not take load, so I learnt to shift the load from ankle to the toe, and knee, but the knee became painful then that’s when I learnt to work with the hip joint whenever possible so that the knee and toe don’t bear the brunt, eventually when ankle healed my lower limb had learnt to distribute the work and watch for one another.

As I figured this relation out, I realized sometimes a part of us must die before another part can come to life.  Life the existence of the tadpole must be over for the frog to emerge. This is natural and necessary for our growth. Yet it is so confusing, disorienting and often painful. These just the messengers that tell us that a shift is taking place within us. These shifts happen throughout our life, from infancy to adulthood and beyond.

In my case looking back I realize with each transition it is saying good-bye to an old friend, the identity that we formed in order to move through that particular time.

When I have become unsettled in areas of my life, in various identities be it relationships, or jobs I realized have been times when the shift was taking place within me. of course I need to step back and peer through the surface to figure these out. And the most painful points have been breaking the protective shell; there was a whole chapter of my life where I lived in a shell to heal myself from an old trauma. At the end of it I became confined restless wanting to move outside the shelter and that was not possible within that shell.

Its both exhilarating and sad to say good-bye t a part of ourselves that is dying  and make way for a whole new identity to emerge in its place.  But I guess ability to cope this is like the ability of the snake shedding its skin. That could possibly be the reason why our family is associated with snakes. To remind us that death and rebirth are simply nature’s way of evolving. We can surrender to this process and let our past self go with great love and gratitude, this will allows us welcome the new with an open mind and heart ready for our next phase in life.