Shifting roles—supporting my partner.
The past few days every body seems to going through this great debate about an irrelevant video made by an irresponsible movie maker.
On the other hand training the women at Oriflame I see women who are truly emancipated, women who have nurtured their families and now stepping out to another realm. Young girls who have made a choice to nurture their homes knowing fully well that they can claim their crown when they return after a decade or so.
Hyderabad mind you is muslim dominated and the prototype of a hyderabadi woman is oppressed, but what learnt from these women, is excellent. I did ask them about family approval and husband’s approval, whatever. Interestingly what they shared was something that my mother and others have already said or what I have experienced within my 24yrs of married lifet,
If we do look at any partnership, or long-term commitment two people in the relationship may shift in and out of various roles like one partner might require support to go back to school, to this the others goals or aspiration may have to be adjusted to provide a stable base from which his or her her partner can launch in a new direction. Nurturing is feeling the pleasure of seeing a loved one thrive,when our partner expands horizons we expand ours too, we gain access to a world that is other wise closed to us.
But this does not mean only one partner soars, somewhere we do step back and let the other step out. This might be a period of healing, or spiritual growth or transition. But this happens usually without actual awareness or communication, but if this is done consciously thenthe growth is better, the relationship stays stable because the ebb and flow in the relationship remains fair and equal.
What each of these women particularly in their mid forties or early fifties shared, was the growth in the relationship occurred when the equation altered. The equation altered when communication occurs. The shifts have been in synchrony with what works best for the moment, a simple daal chawal in front of the television or a ritual daawat.
What was most important was acknowledging and gratitude.