Disapproval

violet flameDoes this dress look good?

I think LBG relationship is okay… but what will people say…

So many variations of this, I have harboured this for god knows how long. I did apparently rebel but at my honest moments I had accept that I found it difficult to handle disapproval. I knew not everybody will like me, yet accepting it has been an issue.

I now realize that it is okay to move into acceptance of not being accepted than try to make everybody like me.

Of course the experience is not pleasant but there are times in our lives when we come across people who do not like us. Then I realized that likes attracts likes, so when someone did not like me, it was because I did not fit into the pattern and they did not know how handle it. Rather taking it affront, I realized that accepting them for who they are gave me the freedom to have different perspectives and opinions. I was releasing myself from the approval gaining track by not judging the other; I could now put my energy towards something more rewarding.

Being approved and accepted does give a warm feeling, but that being the focus of all action could make us deviate from our paths. There are those who will not like us no matter what we do. But does not mean that that there is anything wrong with us. Each of has our own filters built from our experiences over time. It could be a projection of our understanding, but we have no control over the interpretations of others. The best we can do is to hope that the role we play in the script of their lives is helpful to them. And follow our own inner guidance and integrity.

It’s only when I began walking my path, at my pace I began to grow, and this growth allowed me to appreciate myself. The need to belong, to fit, was slowly replaced by the exhilaration of discovering that I am attracting likeminded individuals into my life because they understand and appreciate the truth of who we are. As I gave myself the permission to communicate what matters to me in every situation I had peace despite rejection or disapproval, putting a voice to my soul helped me to let go of negative energy of fear and regret. It helped transcend limitation and empowered me to co create my life with the universe.

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