Choosing a new response to fear,

fear

I was viewing the advertisement of Mountain Dew,”darr kea age jeet hai”

Sounds interesting. But fear is a fundamental experience that triggers a behaviour change.

Actually when we think about it, like John Lennon summed it up– there are two basic motivating forces  fear and love, when we are afraid, we pull back from life, when we are love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement and acceptance. We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and imperfections. If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open our ability to love others or our potential to create. Evolution and all hopes for a better world rest in the fearlessness and open hearted vision of people who embrace life.

Yet Fear actually is a protective mechanism of the animal existence, it is a part of being human. It fear that triggers the adrenaline release that helps us to deal with potential danger. But fear is also what may keep us from participating in life fully. Once we realize that fear is a state of mind we can choose to face our fears, change our minds and create the life that we would like to live.

Fear triggers a fight or flight response in humans. That is once the psyche sense the threat, we either turn round and fight the threat or more often than not we fly away from the threat. Sometimes these fears and phobias are dealt across lifetimes.

We use available data and create connections and a response to stimuli emerges, we can reconnect the circuit to give us a new response. We the ability to observe these and choose differently. So matter where the fear came from we can create new connections by choosing new thoughts. When our soul and minds are aligned, we create new experience of reality. This journey begins with small steps, lot of patience and courage.

Remember trying out cycling down the main road to school the ride was about 5km. Through a jungle, I was very apprehensive, no let me be honest I was “shit scared”  the first day I rode from home to the first bus-stop, and each day I went one bus-stop more until I eventually reached college. When I shifted to a scooter from the bicycle I did the same process.

The next on my list is driving. I realized I need really be afraid of my fears, they are not there to scare me, but they are just there to let me know that something is worth it.

We all have our own fears, but thinking about it, “Can we still be brave if we are afraid?” frankly, that is the only time we can be brave. Maybe we should take Eleanor Roosevelt’s advice and do one thing every day that scares us.

Author: parwatisingari

full time mother and role play at being, dentist,dramatist, dancer, dreamer

2 thoughts on “Choosing a new response to fear,”

  1. I couldnt agree more parwati. Choosing a different emotion over fear, esp excitement and the sense of adventure can be a very productive way to tackle these fears in our lives,

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