It was dinner at Dr.Tripati’s place with Dr.Chayya and his wife.
“How are you guys going” Dr.Tripati asked us when it was time for us to leave.
“By bike” replied my husband
“One or two” asked Dr.Tripati
“One” replied my husband. That was when Dr.Tripati entered the conversation, “How are you going doctor” he enquired of me.
“With him’ answered Dr.Tripati on my behalf.
“Do you live close by?” was Mr.Chayya’s question he was mildly curious, now Mr.Chayya has known me for 5years and known my husband for a bit longer,
I was all set to retort, when my husband replied, ”Yes Mr.Chayya, we live close by, actually in the same house.”
“oh! Same house is it” he repeated suddenly it struck him, he turned to me and said, ””Why”
“we live in the same house.”
‘Oh! Are you related,’
“Yes, Mr.Chayya, legally related… my the order of the court.” corrected my husband. The look on Mr.Chayya’s face was priceless,
This was top of the mind lighter situation.
Though I never realized it, it is rather difficult to remember the lighter moments of our lives. I think that does it, I am going to gift myself a dictionary this year, so that I can look up fun, I’m not sure I know what it means anymore.
It might also be a great idea to take hands on workshop on expressing our enjoyment, thats when laughter manifests does it not?
On an academic note laughter is not the same as humour. Laughter is a physiological response to humour. Laughter consists of two parts, a set of gestures and the production of sound. When we laugh, the brain pressures us to conduct both those activities simultaneously. When we laugh heartily changes occur in many parts of our body, in the trunk muscles, in the limbs both upper and lower.
Encyclopaedia Britannica actually describes this a rhythmic, vocalized, expiratory and involuntary actions which in common parlance is called laughter. It involves roughly about 15 facial muscles, like the Zygomatic Major, and the respiratory system is tackled by the epiglottis, there is regular intake of air that makes us gasp. There are times when tear ducts are activated while the mouth is opening and closing and struggling oxygen intake continues. The face becomes moist and often red.
The intensity of this could vary from sedate giggles to boisterous guffaws.
The existence of this is of course very important for a relationship. Yet it is rather strange that we tend not to bookmark these or dwell on these moments we tend to dwell on moments of pain, disappoint instead. Its more than just pleasurable activity.. When people laugh together they tend to talk and touch more and to make eye contact more frequent.
Maybe it is time to keep a laughter journal, like gratitude journal and note about the things that made us smile, laugh and giggle during the day. After all the uninhibited laughter, the self conscious giggle and the gentle smile they are moments that uplift us.