When BlogAdda gave us the prompt on the touch being different I did a story that was with me for a while. But I did ponder over touch. Touch is one of the five senses the sparsha. That is it is primal communication pathway, a non-verbal communication. Sometimes it can be very reassuring sometimes it can be painful. But it definitely communicates something.
Touching is a normal daily occurrence especially when you are surrounded by people. It is possible because humans are programmed to connect and interact. The hard cling touch could mean anything from fear to hanging on to dear life.
The message from the touch is translated by the body just like it translates a verbal or a visual communication. The context plays an important role in the perception of the communication. I just thought let me list what I can…. hopefully I will get some inputs from the rest of you.
- A pat on the back – support, approval, showing sympathy, an act of comfort or an expression of sympathy.
- A hug could be a greeting, an request for intimacy or a gesture that denotes comfort.
- Gripping of the arm could be fear of external forces, a request to stay put, or a way to acquire security and guidance.
- Rubbing the arm, could be a signal for more physical closeness, wanting to be warmer, showing sympathy or might request complacency from the receiver.
- Hitting apart from obvious aggression, and anger it can also express surprise, fear and panic.
- Squeezing hug is a need for closeness, need for intimacy fear a request for protection and comfort,
- Pushing could be a playful, or it could be disgust.
- Arm over shoulder could be protectiveness, affection or familiarity.
- Hand on both shoulders, could be persistence, wanting to convince someone, trying intimidate, and if this accompanied by shaking then it alludes anger.
- Forehead to forehead express love, affection and a plea for closeness
- Cheek to cheek also exhibits closeness or a need for it. Sometimes it can be threatening too.
- Hands on face, affection
- Rubbing the palm is a way of expressing comfort or to get the attention or even to calm the other down.
- Clasping the arm on one hand could be asking for support, it could also render support and guidance.
- Touching the hair is declaring familiarity or a need to be closer.
- Resting the head on the shoulder, again proclaims familiarity and comfort and wanting to be closer it is also asking for affection.
- Rubbing the thigh of course is an request intimacy, it can also be a sign of comfort when intimacy already exists.
- Holding hands is a plea for closeness, guidance, a need for security, solidification of friendship, a pact, reaching out to connect and sometimes re-assurance.
These are what I could broadly put together, and these are not sacrosanct, the actual interpretation would depend on the person’s experiences, it is also depends on the current state of the relationship. No matter what someone’s motive is knowing what precedes the thought can really help. Touch is also a great clutch for someone who is challenged by verbal communication.
“Sometimes, reaching out and taking someone’s hand is the beginning of a journey.
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