I gave myself 20 mnts and typed everything that popped up in my space on conditional love. Would love to get inputs from all of you.
“we would advise you ” Patti was saying,”if you understand then fine, if you don’t its your funeral and because we love you its ours too.”
From then to now it is over 35yrs, but this
We love you so…. this or that.
If you love me….then
You make me laugh… so I love you.
Where is unconditional love? when I say my love is unconditional what am I actually saying?
It brings forth another thought like there is no one who is Kama Mukt in the earth school even a sanyasi is a kamarthi, for he is desiring Moksha.
When it comes to why do I love someone, because that person, object or event allows me to experience a feeling, it allows me to partake, I recognize it as love because my body physiology follow a pattern and that pattern is something that I would like to experience again. So how does love become unconditional.
I recognize that I love something because my pupils dilate, if the trigger is olfactory my nostrils flare the intake of air increases, if it is it could also trigger an increased salivary flow. If the trigger is sexual then probably I might emit appropriate hormones. So essentially what I am saying is if the trigger did not allow this experience or altered physiology then there is no question of love. Love then becomes defined by these conditions
When the Greeks talk of Eros I understand the cause and effect, Newton’s third law in place.
But then Philia, the so romantic sacrificing love it is believed to sustain and be there irrespective of how the person that you love treats you. Well is it really unconditional, what about the joy that person’s presence gives you, that is the experience, the fact that your presence may not elicit similar joy does not make my love unconditional. Maybe a little less demanding but definitely not unconditional.
Even Agape the near altruistic universal love is not so clinically unconditional. The experience that we partake here is a sense of satisfaction and may even be a sense of self-righteousness.
Is truly unconditional love possible of course if we use love a verb it might be another story.
Better still it might be a good idea to check what unconditional love really is.
Well the dictionary calls defines it as is known as affection without any limitations or love without conditions. This term is sometimes associated with other terms such as true altruism or complete love. Each area of expertise has a certain way of describing unconditional love, but most will agree that it is that type of love which has no bounds and is unchanging. It is a concept comparable to true love, a term which is more frequently used to describe love between lovers. By contrast, unconditional love is frequently used to describe love between family members, comrades in arms and between others in highly committed relationships. An example of this is a parent’s love for their child; no matter a test score, a life changing decision, an argument, or a strong belief, the amount of love that remains between this bond is seen as unchanging and unconditional. A common misconception is that one must love themselves first before being capable of unconditional love; this is simply not true.