Day 1 Dedication of Fria.

The beginning of the month is like the beginning of the year but in a microform.

February ushers in the aura of romance. let’s get real, February is the month of ‘LOVE’ and love in its many forms. When we say express love…my question would be how. My form of expressing love and other’s form of accepting love might be different.

If we let go of love as verb, and look at it as noun of course we come across love in 3 forms,

1. eros which …
2. friendship
3. something else.

Indian Mythology as talks of Kama Dev, confining him to love and gives him only 4 arrows representing four aspects of love… not to mention his wife Rati who is erotica personified and assistance Vasantha who rules spring the season of new life. It is only this reading of Swapna Vasavadutta that I have realized that Rama’s arrow are 4 while Madana or KamaDev’s arrows are 5

1. aravinda: the white lotus-Harshana- evoking fascination attraction
2. Ashoka: Red flowers-vochana – causing temptation
3. Amra:      mango flowers – Mohana – love sickness
4. Navamallika:   Jasmine – shoshanam – weakness due to love sickness.
5. Nilopata:   Blue lotus – creates death.

But definitely giving and receiving love is something much more than that.

People perceived being loved when an area of lack in their life is addressed. In the core of it all is lack of self-acceptance. I am imperfect so I am not worthy of being loved. Validate my worthiness, acknowledge me is the seeker’s narrative.

But the receiver’s offer will come from his or her lack. I need validation, so I validate you. If you do not validate me in the way I understand validation then you do not love me. Here we are talking of communication.

The only way I can find love I realize is to give out love unconditionally.

The way I can give out unconditional love is when I have accepted myself and my situation just the way it. I am not talking about being resigned here, I am talking about acceptance. These are the tools I have and this is what I deliver with the tools I would like to express my love for the other how best will I do it. Most importantly an acceptance that I receive my gratification in the act, and not the reaction of the other.

It is the latter part of that we all goof up, since we judge the love, we receive through the filter of our core imbalance issue.

I’ll hold the appearance of Patty the Preacher for a while. In the meanwhile February is the month to express love and gratitude:

• Romantic Partners.
• Kids,
• Grandkids
• Parents
• Parents-in-law
• extended family
• Friends
• Co-workers
• Neighbours
• Online friends.

I am open to Giving and Recieving Unconditional Love.

February affirmation.