My nephew Sharad is extremely good with hands, and loves to fiddle around in my grandpa’s carpentry workshop. My aunt who is school teacher and I were observing him in one of his activity. I casually mentioned, may be “Ajja should teach him carpentry” response from aunt and my cousin’s wife so spontaneous, ”definitely not, it is dangerous, he can hurt himself.” The two women concluded that Lego’s were safer. They even threw in a play carpenters set to keep him “occupied.”
Another time, it was Sharad’s younger brother Neerad, who pottering in the garden with all of us busy he took out a small spade and dug up a hole, planted some plant he had picked from the neighbours garden. Again, ”it is dangerous, he can hurt himself, who will clean the mess, what if he has insect bite.”
In way it protective, but is also smothering, and we are teaching our child not take a risk. This living our life with a safety net, it creates a barrier to our freedom.
In general, as we create the life of our dreams, we often reach a crossroad where the choices seem to involve the risk of facing the unknown versus the safety and comfort of all that we have come to trust. It is walking on a tightrope. Carefully teetering along the narrow path to our goals, sometimes feeling that we are doing so without a net. Knowing we have some backup may help us work up the courage to those first steps. Until we are secure in knowing that we have the skills to work without one, But when we trust the universe we need not visible see the support yet we have the confidence that it exists.
We act only when we can see the safety net, then we may be trapped by the net, and it might limit us from attaining our potential. Growth, change are all part of life, even to overcome fear and trust can be surprising. With fear out of the equation, we don’t waste time and energy wondering what is going on below, we can devote our full attention to the dream that awaits us.
In 1993 when I wanted to start my clinic, my husband’s guruji told me, you take the first steps and universe will provide you exactly what you need. The same was repeated at the landmark forum, lousie hay, instead of letting an unknown fear dictate our lives we could begin to take action, the first decision being this step is for highest and best experience of growth. The landing may be soft, or we may find an unexpected resuce, or an eye-opening experience gleaned only from the process of falling.
Once we step out of the safety net in step with the universe, we know make the best from whatever comes our way.