Don’t be ashamed to weep; ’tis right to grieve. Tears are only water, and flowers, trees, and fruit cannot grow without water. But there must be sunlight also. A wounded heart will heal in time, and when it does, the memory and love of our lost ones is sealed inside to comfort us.”
― Brian Jacques, Taggerung
My friend is an EFT healer, one day her son was disturbed by something, she told him to tap him to healing.
The boy told her “Its okay mom I can deal with being disturbed. “that really got me thing. After all sitting with our sadness also requires courage, and a belief that we can bear the pain and we will come out the other side.
When this friend lost her husband, people kept telling her, oh! You should live for your sons, when my brother lost the election my mother went, “well, it is learning” but the last thing most of us would want to hear or think about when we are dealing profound feelings of sadness is that deep learning can be found in this place. The pain makes us feel picked on by life, or overwhelmed by the enormity of some, or simply too exhausted to try and examine the situation. We may be even too disappointed and angry to look for anything resembling a bright side of our suffering. Yet somewhere within we know that we will eventually emerge from the depts. Into the light of the greater awareness. Knowing elusive truth always helps.
Another very irritating thing is “we have to face things and go through tough time” I mean when I am dealing with intense sadness I do not want to hear that the only way out is through it. Sitting with sadness takes courage to believe that we can bear the pain and the faith that we will come out the other side. With courage we can allow ourselves to cycle through the grieving process with full inner permission to experience it. This is the teaching that sadness has to offer us – the ability to surrender and acceptance of change go hand in hand.
Sadness also teaches us compassion for others in pain, for only when we experience pain can we really understand and allow for someone else’s. Sadness is something that deepens our life with its presence. While our own individual experiences of sadness are unique lessons, the learning is universal. The wisdom we gain as we go through the process of feeling the loss, heart break or deep disappointment gives us the access to the heart of humanity.