Welcome to the wonderful world of jealousy, for the price of admission you get a splitting headache, a nearly irresistible urge to commit murder and an inferiority complex… feeling jealous is a common human feeling and usually stems from a place of lack in our lives.
I am not going to share the exact moments of that I wore the crown of “Your jealousness” its too embarrassing, but I realize it is one of the toughest feelings I have come up against in my life. there is not much worse than this aching sense that somehow life has been unfair, while amply rewarding someone else. It’s worse when that someone is present in our daily lives.
I know of a couple, both super achievers through their college, a fairy tale marriage but the marriage is in disaster because both are competing with one another and are jealous of one another too. One could be jealous of their children parents whatever this is experience though painful is a common human feeling.
Although same it is important not feed it with inner talk or gossip, then this monster that we are battling is not fuelled by words or actions of others, it is fuelled by the mind that gives it importance. The Buddhist philosophy teaches us to learn from jealousy.
Or rather jealousy is marker, it gives us that information about our own hearts desire, when we are jealous of someone, it means we have discovered something that we would like to be present in our lives but is currently absent or not present as much as we would like it to be, so the first step would be is to acknowledge that entity, energy that we would like to invite into our space. That is honouring our own desire.
there have times I have realized I had to heal the jealousy that I was is from the path of those around us. this may be hard to see now, but eventually it will be clear why our life has taken its particular path with each client that I am helping to find resolution in the hypno-chair I realize that the life we have is so full of its won meaning and beauty and it is unique to us – a gift that could never be found in the life of another.