World Bisexual Day.

image courtesy internet
image courtesy internet

23rd September is the world bisexual celebration day.

Honestly to me sexuality is very personal and not to be dandled about nor do I believe in colouring my display picture. But the last few clients that I have had in my clinic are dealing with this issue very extensively. But accepting bisexuality without judging would mean we are a mature society.

There are wrecks as they are confused with being attracted to both sexes.  One of them wondered if she had a spirit attachment. The other said she had more partners than Draupadi, because this whole attraction business confused her. That made think maybe this issue should be brought out into the open.

But okay what is bisexuality all about?

It works two ways; a person could have characteristics of both sexes, or could be attracted to both men and women.  That is just the way they are nothing out of the world.

Back to bisexuality it is person who is capable of being romantically or sexually attracted to both males and females.

People discover their sexuality at various points in their life, that they are either heterosexual- or homosexual or bisexual. This entire behaviour pattern could be incongruent not in consistent with identity. That is people may identify themselves as hetero/homo/bi sexual without actually experiencing the relation.

Bisexuality is the potential to be attracted romantically and or sexually to people of more than one sex and or gender not necessarily in the same way, and not necessarily in the same degree. The development of LGB (lesbian-gay-bisexual) identity is a complex and many a times painful process.

Lot of it is due to ignorance or intolerant of the society and community that these individuals belong. Quite a few individuals hide behind the bisexual veil due to their fear of accepting their homosexuality. This is where the guilt and trauma and confusion steps in.

Kinsey’s scale was created by Alfred Kinsey to measure the continuum of sexual orientation. The scale ranges from 0 which is absolute heterosexual to 6 which is total homosexual. Anywhere in between could be considered bisexual. But the concept of this scale has been severely challenged.

Interestingly ancient Greeks and Romans did not associate sexual relations with binary labels as modern western society does. Men who had male lovers were not identified as homosexuals and they may have had wives or other female lovers. Ancient Greeks, incorporated bisexual themes, the Spartans thought that love and erotic relationships between experienced and novice soldiers would solidify combat loyalty and bring about unit cohesion. Once the younger soldiers reached maturity the relationship was supposed to become non sexual.  The rigid of this is not clear. ancient Rome on the other hand did not bother with the gender of the sexual partner, as long a man’s enjoyment did not encroach on another’s integrity it was accepted for freeborn Roman man to want sex both female and male partners. The morality depended on the social standing of the partner and not gender. It was okay to act out desires with slaves or prostitutes but it was immoral to have sex with another freeborn man’s wife or daughter, underage son or man himself. Sexual use of another man’s slave was subject to the owner’s permission.

The Hindu mythology has many references to this, like the Mohan avatar of Vishnu, which Shiva fell in love, it is believed that then there is the story of Ila, who is cursed to be a man one month and woman another, in his female form he falls in love with the moon, and becomes his partner.

In the Hindu context the homosexual or bisexual activity are considered purely ritualistic they are not necessary for sexual pleasure. Agni the god of fire, wealth and creativity has same sex sexual encounter that involves accepting semen from other gods. Though he is married to Svaha, he is shown to be the partner of Soma the moon God. Agni takes the receptive role, accepting the Semen from soma with his mouth, paralleling Agni’s role in accepting sacrifices from earth to heaven. Orthodox Hinduism refers to this as mithuna or ritual sexual encounters.

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There are tales of Krishna becoming Mohini for Aravana, then the partnership of Mithra and Varuna the adityas resulting in the birth of agastya, valmiki and vashista.

This are at the end of the day a personal take and like the roman’s put it as long as it does not impinge on another’s integrity then who is anyone to condemn or glorify it.

Devdutt Pattnaik’s book dealing with the myths of homo/bisexuality…

I think choosing between men and a woman is like choosing between cake and ice cream. You’d be daft not to try both when there are so many different flavours.” 

2 Replies to “World Bisexual Day.”

  1. …and then there is the Ardha-nareeshwara version to be considered!
    Wonder if you have seen the movie ‘Margarita with a straw’? It touches on this very aspect of a disabled person who lives life on her own terms.

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