I used to think soulful eyes, and gazing into the soul were all poetic exaggeration until, I did hypnotherapy.
Hypnotherapy has taught me many things. One of them is the existence of soul.
Soul we are told is the purest expression of an individual and is not bound by physical forms or fleeting emotions.
The soul activists claim that looking deeply into partners eyes would show us the person’s inner beauty which we might otherwise miss. It is possible for someone who appears cod to have a warm, giving, nurturing soul or someone of average appearance to have a beautiful soul. Looking at the soul involves looking past shapes, sizes attitudes and behaviour to see the real individual that lies beneath the surface. It allows you to see the true essence of another person, the radiance of their being and their spirit within.
Our appearances or personality captures very little of us, the thoughts fears, desires and longings that are part of what makes us whole are not always written across our faces. Often the most surprising thing that we may earn soul gazing is that the persona of the person and the real person are different. One might also discover similarities within us. What soul seeing does it help us experience the people in our lives beyond the mental or physical barriers.
Communication is something that occurs at various levels. We presume communication as being a part of two part exchange. There is the receptive hearing and active component that is speaking. Yet intuitively we recognize communication goes far beyond what we do with our ears and mouths. Communication is both verbal and non-verbal.
Soul gazing is an exercise that is nonverbal. The energy connect between individuals is opened up. Prolonged eye contact is intimate and that can get challenging.
A good way to do is to sit face to face with one another and state our intention before we begin. The stare begins softly into each other’s eyes without stopping to look away. Each of the soul gets revealed to the other.
The goal being not to look away until the soul is revealed. After which 2-3mnts of silent reflection could help. This harmonizes energies actually tantra uses this to bring about intimacy between couples.
This is quite challenging as some people are shy about looking into another’s eye directly. Some people could perceive it as intrusion. There are others who feel exposed and some are afraid. There could be a tendency to judge ourselves or our partners. Once we are able to overcome these controlling emotions, we are actually able to experience the inner peacefulness and calm.
If you would like to experiment with it, then begin with creating a sacred space
- The space should be clean and tidy
- Remove anything that does not belong there, like let the laundry go into the laundry basket, vacuum the place and bring in clean energy.
- Place something that is relevant to you.
- Keep the lighting as close to the natural light as possible.
- If sound is important to you use soft non-intrusive music.
- Fragrances can also help.
- Take a deep breath and practise deep relaxation technique.
Acknowledge each other, begin with focusing on your breathe, look within yourself listen to your thoughts and gradually feel the tension leaving you. Acknowledge each of this but continue to focus on your breathe. When you reach a place of stillness begin the soul gazing. With both the partners opening their eyes slowly.
Focus on the gaze, and the breathe you will notice that everything around fades away. You be drawn to the present moment. Where the thoughts of the past and future melt away. The eyes now truly become the window of the soul.
Gradually what you will notice is that your partner and you are breathing synchrony. We also at point make a soul connect. This is very empowering and healing.