Tag: feminism

Mah jawbox ay dishes–rescuer — Big Bosch!!

I am hurt, angry and want to forget that I am 50+ and stamp my feet like the youngest inner child trapped in me,

BlogAdda you have hurt me so terrible, that I shall go and eat some worms, big ones small ones wriggly wiggly one.

Don’t stare at me, okay I get it you are clueless about what inspired my ranting okay.

Remember the time when you are young and you have the next 20yrs years to build your dream life, I was there once. And my dream house had a wonderful kitchen right out of inside outside magazine with a Nikki-Tasha cooking range and unnamed brand of dishwasher and unnamed brand of washing machine.

When I set up my own house, I realized that there few tasks that can be akinned   to the torture of Sisyphus and housework was one of them an never ending cycle of the clean becoming soiled, the soiled having to be cleaned over and over , day after day.  I hate it…

“I do the dishes in my house, because nobody does them the way I do it,” this is a quote from either Bill Clinton or Bill Gates I am not sure, but I hate it…

Standing with sleeves rolled up and arms in the sink, is not how I like to end my day. My thoughts go round and round and it occurs to me, if I ever wrote a book, which I attempt every November it would of the stream of consciousness type and deal with an hour in the life of a woman, at the sink. I feel resentful at Mr. Tee and Jay as they plonk right in front of the TV while I am cleaning up the mess, of course nobody compels me to do it, but a sunk sink at 4am is not a welcome sight. More importantly I would be sitting on nails with dishes not done, or laundry not aired.

You know one of the wisest advice I received about kitchen chores came from my mother, “Do the dishes when you’re cooking” I visualize myself stacking the dishwasher as I cook.

I dream of buying that dishwasher. I have walked up to the IFB kitchen got the pictures and quotes, the only thing I get to hear…

“Oh! It is fine for us in US, even in US we don’t use it for all our dishes” one bay area house wife advices.

“Oh! It cannot be used for Indian cooking, our cooking is greasy” next NRI gyan.

“It does not really reduce work, you have to rinse the stuff and put it in,”  — it cannot more frustrating than washing dishes already washed by the maid, because, “she travels by bus and you do not know if she who she was sitting next to”

If this Bosch demo was open to people outside Mumbai=Bangalore- or Delhi, believe me I would apply, if I know the dates at Mumbai/Bangalore I would still manage after all with my family being Bangalore based and my in-laws from Mumbai not a bad deal.

I visualize myself, recording the demo, and then asking those questions I have the check list

  • Can I wash the wok in it?
  • Can I wash the milk vessel in it?
  • Can delay the onset, — that really does not matter, for I can run the dishwasher and set the clothes washer to start when it is done.
  • What happens if the power goes off in between
  • How much of water will it consume – can have the used water collecting at a place to recycle it?
  • How much of power will it take?
  • How much of floor area will it consume?

But (my nostrils flared, fists clenched, rib tightened) BlogAdda, you deprive me of a chance to present my case to my family.dishwasher 2

Think about this, everyone, wants to save the earth, but nobody wants to help mom do the dishes, and no matter how much I hate it, most discussions of feminism refuse address the question who does the dishes, yet at the end of the day those damn dishes are there in the sink and they have to be done!!

The only redeeming factor of the lack of a dishwasher is you get the ideal time with appropriate emotional backing to plan the perfect murder mystery  … how else would explain the juicy murders penned by Agatha Christie?

 

 

World Hijaab Day

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My sister and I were in the Bombay local, it was just after Eid. Since my burn scars were visible I had taken to wearing the Hijaab.  Hijaab is the traditional covering for the hair and neck that is worn by Muslim women.

At Dadar, a woman entered since it was a time and day when the train was not crowded, the women decided to make conversation. She looked at me and said,”Eid Mubarak.” It didn’t do harm to reply so my sister and I greeted her back. She then said,”Oh! The Kheer that you make for Eid I really enjoy It.” it then occurred to us that she thought we were Muslims and was trying to be secular. I know it sounds bitchy but that seems to be a major attitude.hijabi

Too many people look at the Hijaab as though it has bizarre powers sewn into its microfibers. Powers that transform Muslim women into UCO’s that is the unidentified covered objects, which in turn converts the Muslim women from us to them.

The trail of the covered head, came to India with the conquering Muslims, the elite women first wore them, like copying the stars, the people then began covering head to copy the elite… the reference to this can be found in kalhana’s ragatarangini. Eventually it became part of the wardrobe, I think parallel journeys are travelled by the ubiquitous “nighties” and now the “Salwaar Kameez.” Any way February 1st is the world Hijaab Day and 116 countries participate in it. it was founded by Nazma Khan in 2013. hijabi 2

The idea is for both Muslim and non-Muslim women to wear the Hijaab for a day and experience life from the other side, that is experience the life of a Hijaabi woman. Of course people do look at it as a venture to create converts, and convert the converts to fanatics.

The Hijaab is viewed as a method of oppression to quote Yasmin Mogahed, in Reclaim Your Heart personal insights on Breaking Free from Life’s shackles —. “With my veil I put my faith on display—rather than my beauty. My value as a human is defined by my relationship with God, not by my looks. I cover the irrelevant. And when you look at me, you don’t see a body. You view me only for what I am: a servant of my Creator.
You see, as a Muslim woman, I’ve been liberated from a silent kind of bondage. I don’t answer to the slaves of God on earth. I answer to their King.” hijabi

As for feminism, its purpose isn’t to make a particular type of woman, the idea that there are inherently wrong and right types of woman  it’s so judgmental, this belief, we don’t accept  dim birds, birds that bitch, birds who stay at home and look aft kids, birds that drive the pink Nano with powered by fairy dust , birds saris, birds in burkas, birds that like to pretend that they are  Hrithik Roshan’s dream dancer partners, feminism is all of us, and feminism is that simple belief that women should be as free as men, however nuts, dim, deluded, dowdy, fat, lazy , smug they might be.

All of you feminist watch dogs, next time you are heading out of the door, pause at the mirror and make sure that what you see reflects your purpose and value. That does not mean donning a Hijaab but it probably doesn’t mean having words on your butt either.#Fantstico (7)

At the end of the day, the decision of to wear a hijaab or not should be that of the individual. Western opinion on the hijaab or burkas is rather irrelevant.  It would be right that we don’t decide for any woman, what does or does not oppress them no matter how highly we think of ourselves…” coming to modesty quote –“Modesty and decency dwell in the mind, not in a burka.”
Author: Nadeem Aslam

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