The word Bully has diverse meaning like a blustering browbeating person especially someone who is habitually cruel to others particularly some weak. It could also mean a hired ruffian. Interestingly the word began meaning as brother, friend, sweetheart.
Bullying can be a simple one on one to more complexes, with a bully having one or more lieutenants. Bullying at schools, family, workplace, home and neighbourhoods. This bullying patterns and behaviour depends on whether the most influential male in the bullies’ life would approve of the bullying behaviour or not.
Bullies behave the way they do because
- They direct their frustrations, hurt, anger and difficulty with environment at home or school on someone who will not hit back.
- To feel cool or popular, in charge particularly if the person lacks attention from friends, parents or teachers.
- Sometimes, kids see others getting their way by pushing or intimidating others, they learn that it is the best shot at survival.
- Bad value systems at home,
- Watching violent movies tends to arouse the violent streak in people, and they try them out on people who appear smaller or weaker than them.
What is the victimology or what makes a person susceptible to bullying.—bullies tend to pick people who they think they can get away bullying. The ratio of being bullied is one in four in most countries. Some major triggers seem to be
- People who appear smaller or weaker.
- Physical appearance,… too thin, tall, short, fat whatever.
- Skin colour.
- People who challenged or have physical variations like defective eyes, style of walking, speech whatever, sometimes it is something as mundane as a name.
- People who are short tempered are a great catch for bullies, since it is easier set them off.
- Loners or people who are very shy are often butts of bullying for awkward social experiences are brought up and the person is made to relive it.
Bulling can be Physical, Emotional, or verbal. These days bullying is also cyber.
By and large the tendency is to brush off bullying as part of growing up, fun, peer bonding etc. but the impact of it can be long drawn. It affects both the predator and the victim.
The victim lands up losing interest in school, they might even suffer physical and mental injuries. Depression, anxiety, anxiety, sleep disorder, turning into loners and generally looses interest in activity there are also incidences where victims have been pushed to committing suicide and this has been labelled as Bullicide.
The kids who bully tend to have violent behaviour as well. Alcohol, drug abuse seems to follow through adolescence and adulthood. Fights, vandalism dropping out of school, promiscuous behaviour and they are also vulnerable to sexual abuse and sexually transmitted infections.
Many bullies become abusive towards their spouses and children
the semi-annual event International Stand Up to Bullying day is to take a visible public stance against bullying. This event takes place in schools, workplaces, organization. This happens on the on the last Fridays of November and the Last Friday of February.
This is an event that has been happening since February 2008 students and staff take a stand against Bullying by signing and wearing a special pink pledge shirt.
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